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Communication & Conflict Deep Diagnostic

Most relationship trouble lives in how couples communicate under stress. This 150-question diagnostic examines 15 dimensions of communication and conflict — listening, expressing needs, validation, defensiveness, criticism, contempt, stonewalling, the demand-withdraw cycle, repair attempts, compromise and de-escalation — to show you exactly where your patterns help or hurt, and what to practise.

An in-depth, ~60-minute diagnostic of how you and your partner talk, fight and repair — built on Gottman's conflict research.

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What the Communication & Conflict Deep Diagnostic measures

This 150-question assessment takes about 60 minutes and looks at 15 key areas:

  • Active Listening
  • Expressing Needs
  • Emotional Validation
  • Defensiveness
  • Criticism vs Complaint
  • Contempt & Respect
  • Stonewalling & Withdrawal
  • Demand-Withdraw Pattern
  • Repair Attempts
  • Timing & Pacing
  • Nonverbal Attunement
  • Assertiveness vs Aggression
  • Compromise & Negotiation
  • Forgiveness
  • De-escalation

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  • Couple's Communication Compatibility Quiz — How well do you really communicate? This quiz identifies how clearly you both express needs, resolve issues, and listen — key for keeping your connection strong.
  • Communication Compatibility Test — Explore your communication style and how it matches (or misfires) with your partner's. This quiz is key for improving connection, clarity, and understanding.
  • Cosmic Connection Quiz — A playful, cosmic-themed snapshot of how aligned you feel with your partner — based on your own answers.
  • Sexual Compatibility Test — Uncover how aligned your physical intimacy needs are. Explore preferences, passion, and bedroom dynamics in a respectful, fun format.

Frequently asked questions

Is this test free?
Yes — this test is completely free to take, and you'll see your score and a snapshot of your result straight away. A Compatify Premium subscription unlocks your full breakdown, personalised growth steps, and reflection prompts.
How long does it take?
Most people finish in about 60 minutes. There are 150 questions and no right or wrong answers — just respond as honestly as you can.
What does this test measure?
It looks at Active Listening, Expressing Needs, Emotional Validation, Defensiveness, Criticism vs Complaint, Contempt & Respect, Stonewalling & Withdrawal, Demand-Withdraw Pattern, Repair Attempts, Timing & Pacing, Nonverbal Attunement, Assertiveness vs Aggression, Compromise & Negotiation, Forgiveness, and De-escalation. Your answers come together into one clear overall picture so you can see where you're strong and where there's room to grow.
Is this test scientifically accurate?
This test is science-informed and designed for honest self-reflection. Think of it as a tool for insight and better conversations, not a clinical or diagnostic test.
Is my data private?
Yes. Your answers stay private to your account and are never sold or shared. You can take this test on your own, and decide if and when you share anything with a partner.